Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Ode to My Babies' Daddy

Ben's list of concerts includes KISS, Iron Maiden and Metallica. But he claims that The Wiggles show beats them all because of the joy it brought to Phoenix!

YESTERDAY I was thinking, Well, I guess I'll only being parenting 2 of my 3 children! Phoenix just adores his dad and most of the time doesn't want anything to do with me! (OK, I'm exaggerating! But the phrase "What am I? Chopped liver?" often goes through my head!) It is so sweet to see the affection Phoenix has for his dad, and vice versa. I am constantly reminded of how distraught Ben was over the Down syndrome diagnosis and how that pain has been turned into something so beautiful. Phoenix was a complete mama's boy until the birth of Rio. Then he had no choice but to go to his dad if he wanted undivided attention! Nowadays, I am ALMOST jealous of their relationship! They have a special bond that few will come close to replicating.

TODAY I felt like I won't be parenting ANY of my 3 children, because I'm a girl and I just can't keep up! I can't compete with how high Dad can throw, how far he can kick, his backflips on the trampoline, his energy level or his goofiness! So I think I spent most of the day doing housework while Ben got to play...and I was thankful.

I am thankful that my boys have such a good dad. None of us are perfect parents, not Ben either, but he does a great job of investing in his boys and balancing playfulness with parenting. His boys will always know that they are loved, made evident by the amount of time Dad spends with the them and all the hugs, kisses...and junk food (LOL! since Mom is always saying NO! LATER!) they receive from him. Because when Ben does screw up as a parent, which we all will do, he'll have built of a foundation of love on which to deal with those mistakes.

Good job, Ben!


Tricia said...

I just got choked up reading this. What a treasure you have! It was great seeing you both interact with your boys, and I hope we get to spend more time together! My foreign husband likes your foreign husband! And I love you both!

Melanie-Pearl said...

very sweet. so glad you can write something like this. lucky boys, lucky you!